Surviving the Deployment

Well it's officially been over 3 months since Kyle has been gone.  It's not necessarily getting easier, but it is becoming different.  I am finally getting into a routine of my own.  It's definitely been interesting to plan everything around me...I don't have to rely on Kyle's schedule to plan our day, week, or month.  I've had a few people say things to me about "Oh, it must be so much easier without kids to take care of!" or "I'm jealous you don't have to raise kids alone".  I want to tell them I'm jealous they get to hug, squeeze and hold their little ones when I get little human contact.  That I love my alone time, but after a month of having alone time in my house, I am ready for someone or something (a pet...*ahem* Kyle) to fill the space with me.  Yes, children are a huge responsibility, especially having to do it when your husband is deployed, but not having children has it's own difficulties.

I actually had a meltdown a few weeks ago with Kyle.  I had started substituting full time and when I sub we rarely get to talk due to the time difference and the hours he works.  Well, I was dealing with our new house we purchased in Oregon (remodel, paying first mortgage, etc.), starting back at work in a grade level I do not enjoy, and just being plain, old lonely.  He asked if I was okay and I just lost it.  I told him I am tired of being alone.  If you know me, I love my alone time, but I had had enough.  I will do plenty of things...I will go to work all day, go to my workout class, meet up with friends for coffee or go shopping, but when I get home I am alone.  I go to bed alone.  I wake up alone.  I make dinner alone.  Now, don't go feeling sorry for me! But I would LOVE your prayers!  And maybe a cat. You could get me a cat.  I am seriously thinking about it because it would be less work than a dog, Kyle could care less about a cat so he wouldn't be upset, and I would have something in my house that is living and would hopefully cuddle with me when I come home. 

So within these last three months (which have gone slowly and quickly at the same time), Kyle is working in Qatar and he is "bored" and "losing his mind" which are two phrases I hear a lot.  I on the other hand, am trying to stay busy (because I can) to help pass the time.  I got a full-time substitute job at the elementary school on base.  I am in an inclusion class (general ed and special ed together).  It is 1st grade and I am the special education teacher.  If you know me, you know I prefer 3rd grade and above, particularly 5th, so 1st is not my thing.  I have also had minimal experience working with special education students, so this has been a learning experience.  I will be in this classroom at least through the end of February, but they may need me to the end of the school year.  As emotionally and mentally exhausting it can be with my 3 particular students I work with, it is great to have the income and more importantly the teaching experience.

Since Kyle was going on this deployment as an individual, it was very low key since it was me who dropped him off at the airport instead of on base with a company of Marines.  Before walking into the airport, we took one last picture together in the car (below) and then I shed a few many tears.  Definitely not something I would wish upon anyone.  But, honestly that was the hardest part so far! Now we get to talk as well as send pictures via email or text daily, which we are SO fortunate to do so!

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Kyle takes pictures for me and sends them for me to document in our Project Life album.  Love him for that!  Here are some pictures from how Kyle passes his time in Qatar and how I have passed my time in Hawaii.

 When Kyle first flew out to the middle east, he spent the first few days in Kuwait.  Here is a view of the sunset.

 A view of Qatar at night.

 Of course, Kyle found Mt. Dew

Eating dinner in the main square.  A little blurry, but I guess they have hookah at every table for people to use.  Very different than the U.S. with no smoking at restaurants!

I have been telling Kyle to read Harry Potter because I love the series.  Well, Kyle doesn't enjoy reading nearly as much as me, but he will listen to book on tape.  He was on book two and I just finished book one (again), so I read the book while he listened to it.

My first care package to Kyle.  Thought I'd decorate a little for Halloween along with some requested items from Kyle and a few treats of my own for him.

Love this picture of Kyle in the city.  They usually get one day off on the weekend, if they get it off at all, and him and some co-workers usually venture into the one major city.

Kyle thought I'd enjoy this picture of him and his buddy at Starbucks...and I do!

 I am still going, going, going in my workout classes.  Trying to get more toned and fit before Kyle gets home!

The big group.  They drove, well Kyle drove, into the desert to see old ruins.  Kyle said driving there is a little bit a lot crazy!

A man with his kids selling some cups (I believe).  I'm so glad Kyle took a picture of this!  I love seeing them in traditional outfits and the girl is in an outfit you would see in the states!

Kyle sitting at his desk, on the Marine Corps birthday, Novemeber 10th, and he wore his fancy schmancy dress blues that I love! He actually had a soldier walk past him and tell him "man, you guys have the best looking uniforms!"

FINALLY got my school badge at Mokapu...I feel official. :)

 They have putt-putt!

AND bowling! How can Kyle say he is bored? ;)

I go to movies by myself and I'm not ashamed of it.  I usually go on base because tickets are only $4.50 and popcorn and a drink is only $5.00.  I went to a matinee on a Sunday to see Captain Phillips.  I told the ticket guy "one, please" and he said, "all by your lonesome?  Well you can go bowling alone too!".  Gee, thanks, but no thanks.  That is good to know about the bowling coupon for future reference though!

Kyle also got to meet Shaq!  Shaquille O'neal and Alonzo Mourning who were doing a USO tour.  He got a signed basketball for me!

 My last pre-Christmas care package.  Unfortunately, I got it together last minute to mail at the beginning of December, so I couldn't decorate it. But I threw in a chocolate advent calendar, some felt garland, and a few mini stockings filled with chocolates, mints, and gum.  I wanted him to decorate a little and have it actually FEEL like Christmas in Qatar.

I hope this gives you, family (especially Kyle's) and friends, a little glimpse into what Kyle is doing and what I am doing to pass my time while he is gone.  If you pray for something, pray for time to go quickly, especially for KYLE!  He gets very bored sitting at a desk...definitely not the type of work he enjoys!  HE is definitely wishing this was a combat deployment, but I am thankful it is not. :)